Forever and ever?? – January/February 2026
Working with couples I am trusted to learn about their relationship challenges, historically and present. I've noticed many individuals believe when an extra relational affair takes place, whether it be physical or emotional they believe it will mean the end of the relationship. This is often not the case in reality. Understanding why the 'space' developed in the relationship which led to the affair can help hugely. This space, often occurs absolutely unintentionally, perhaps due to lifes demands, individual stresses, health issues and perhaps a reduction in prioritising the relationship or it having to withstand massive pressures. If a commitment is made to understand and listen to one another's points of view and reasons for behaviours, and crucially not seeing them as 'excuses' or 'justifications' then great learning can take place. Along with large slab of forgiveness, increased respect for the relationship and ongoing honest communication, can enable to relationship not only to survive, but re-establish itself in a stronger and more more stable position.
Self doubt/s – December 2025
It's a very common topic I explore in sessions with clients; feeling good enough, productive enough, letting others down, not achieving what should have. It's interesting establishing how individuals monitor and measure this. Although I am a therapist I am no different, I experience these thoughts at times. Am I a good enough parent, partner, […]
Dependency and addiction
The terms dependency and addiction seem to conjure feelings and thoughts of negativity. But I realize more and more we have dependencies and addictions which are hugely positive for us and our wellbeing. I speak with others frequently about this. Going to the gym, playing an instrument, drinking a favourite beverage can be great examples of 'healthy addictions/dependencies' lets say. Such things can improve our wellbeing and health. Equally if taken to excess they could impact in detrimental ways. I suspect the key with anything we need or need to do, or to consume is 'are we doing it in a balanced way?' Hard to know at times isn't it. I also suspect, discussing it not only with chat GPT or a health professional could help to put our minds at rest.
Relationship loss – September/October 2025
I've been reflecting a lot recently about the end of relationships. When this occurs it can be devastating and overwhelming. Not only have we lost the relationship and our partner we have quite possibly lost other things too. An extended family, a pet, a home but also grief at what we may have had in the future. Children, retirement together, future financial security. It's no wonder it can take years to cope with this and the resulting changes, and do we ever really 'get over' it. I'm not sure we could be expected to. Perhaps adjusting to the grief and loss so it doesn't impact our day to day ability to function and enjoy aspects of life again is more realistic and what we should be aiming for.
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