I've been reflecting a lot recently about the end of relationships. When this occurs it can be devastating and overwhelming. Not only have we lost the relationship and our partner we have quite possibly lost other things too. An extended family, a pet, a home but also grief at what we may have had in the future. Children, retirement together, future financial security. It's no wonder it can take years to cope with this and the resulting changes, and do we ever really 'get over' it. I'm not sure we could be expected to. Perhaps adjusting to the grief and loss so it doesn't impact our day to day ability to function and enjoy aspects of life again is more realistic and what we should be aiming for.