Working with both couples and individuals I've been struck how often we can withhold the truth from our loves ones and friends, often thinking it maybe best for the situation or them, or perhaps because we worry what the outcome might be if we do tell our truths and inner feelings.  Whilst in some situations this may have helped or seemed right, more often I hear how it has impacted a relationship negatively causing hurt, confusion and distance.

It can feel daunting or awkward to share our inner most thoughts and perhaps create a sense of vulnerability within us.  It is however absolutely the best thing to do.  Long standing relationships and friendships are built on trust, openness and integrity.  Thinking we are withholding information from our partners, family and friends is naive, clumsy and could signify a lack of respect or confidence in yourself and the relationship.

Try to share your views, feelings and truths. It will become easier over time and give you a sense of clarity, comfort and re-assurance.